It’s very weird of me to write a post like this. I wanted to finish up writing up about my recent exciting trek to Goecha La but I decided to write something else for a change. This is a sensitive topic, I understand! If you’re a boy or girl in your mid-twenties now, you’re probably (or probably not) a victim of this you-are-of-marriageable-age-please get-married-soon phase. I’m no different; I’m too. Why I decided to write this post is because I want to know I’m not alone on this.
I’m the cousin who doesn’t show up for the family functions, because I fear the aunties and uncles attacking me with questions like, “When will you get married?”, “How much trekking will you do?”, “You have a good job, when are you going to settle?”
I’m a single and independent woman now. And in this advanced year where we are sending rovers to Mars and even planning to live there in the future, there are still people who believe “You need to get married right now because you won’t find anyone later.” I’m sure this is something that you’ve all heard at some time if you’re in your mid-twenties.
I enjoy my freedom, love going on treks and traveling places that I’ve not gone to, love living experiences that I’ve not lived before. And, I have the support of my family for all this. But, sometimes, when I meet some person for the first time and the person asks, “Why are you not married yet?”, I’m forced to just smile and slide away into a vacuum where no one can find me.
Now let me tell you why I don’t like the idea of recent day marriages. The process happens in 2 stages mainly- 1. Meet the guy once or twice at the max 2. Decide whether you can live the rest of your life with him. It just scares me! I cannot even decide to have a friend like this, let alone a partner for life!
Although I’m still single, I’m still open to the idea of falling in love. Of finding someone who can understand me, who will go places with me, will understand the need for my space, someone who’ll have the guts to tell me that I’m wrong when I’m wrong and someone who’ll accept it when he is. While Bollywood movies and songs have completely ruined the idea of relationships for me, I still believe that there are like-minded people out there who’re going through the same thoughts as I am. Let’s together agree that most relatives are meant to do this.
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I think we’ve to get married when we are ready and are a little more matured to handle life, not when your relatives think you are. Don’t fall into the trap of “You’re getting old, you’ll not find anyone later.” Marriage is a commitment of being through thick and thin, not just about buying gifts and talking nice things with each other. The marriage questions need to stop! If you’re a victim of this too, hit me up and tell me what you are doing to avoid the situation. If not, come, let’s cry together XD :P
